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Empowering Childhood Independence

By: Clare Ashford 03/11/2025
Explore how a seasoned teacher empowers childhood independence through responsibility, play, and effective communication with parents.
Young students and their teacher stand behind a banner that says, "Groovin' at the grove.

Kindergarten is a transformative time, often representing a child's first entry into structured education and social environments. For many of our young students, this is their first experience being around other children their own age, away from the familiar comfort of home. As educators, it’s our role to guide them through this pivotal transition, helping them recognize their autonomy and learn essential life skills. But today’s kindergarteners are different than they used to be, so our approach needs to adapt as well.

Teaching Responsibility and Autonomy

Helping students understand that they are responsible for their belongings is a challenge I often face. A student might say, "My mom forgot to put my folder in my backpack," to which I gently remind them, "It’s your folder and your backpack." This simple shift in language underscores the importance of personal responsibility. While a parent’s instinct is often to do everything for their child, part of my job is guiding caregivers to step back and allow their child to grow. Even the littlest learners can take on this responsibility. School forces this growth by encouraging children to struggle, fail, and eventually succeed on their own.

Parental involvement can range widely, but most parents are understanding and eager to learn, especially if it's their first child. With subsequent children, established routines and expectations can be harder to change. I remember one student who needed help with basic tasks like putting on her backpack because she was the youngest child, and her family essentially did everything for her. I had an honest conversation with her parents, explaining that the student needed to start doing things for herself. This change, although met with resistance from the student at first, resulted in tremendous growth for the child. As a parent myself, I relate to these struggles and use that empathy to foster cooperation and support.

Learning through Play and Positive Competition

Children learn best from their peers, often mimicking what they see others do. Making daily tasks, like putting on a jacket, a slightly competitive game can make these activities exciting and encourage children to strive toward new skills. The concept of "big kids" doing "big kid" things helps frame these tasks as fun and aspirational, and they become their own little teachers.

Teaching Students to Advocate for Themselves

Parents who like to anticipate potential obstacles and swoop in every time their child has a problem inadvertently hinder their child's ability to tackle challenges. Children need to learn how to express their needs, whether it’s a broken pencil or feeling unwell. They need to know when and how to ask for help. My role involves wearing many hats—from life coach to custodian to nurse to librarian. I strive to equip my students with a toolbox of problem-solving strategies (e.g., ask a friend, try again, try a different approach) rather than providing a solution for every little road bump. Our classroom talks about “big problems” and “little problems.” Students are encouraged to solve their own little problems, which gives them a sense of pride and autonomy. They are encouraged to know how and when to ask for help in solving big problems, and I assure them that I will always step in when needed.

Addressing Behavioral Issues with Empathy

On the playground, teaching students concepts like "gentle hands" and personal responsibility helps them navigate social interactions. When conflicts arise, I redirect their behavior and help them understand the consequences of their actions. This process is particularly challenging when children are used to having everything smoothed over for them at home, but when I ask them for their input on how to solve the conflict, I help them build life skills.

Connecting with Uninvolved Parents

Some parents, especially those with negative past school experiences or who are overwhelmed by life's demands, may be less present. Understanding their perspective without judgment is crucial. Schools today focus on the whole child's well-being, nurturing their social, emotional, and academic growth. Building relationships with these families through consistent communication, even leveraging translation apps for ESL families, helps bridge gaps. Teachers can only do so much in the classroom, and it helps tremendously to be on the same page with a student’s family and caregivers. So, do what you can to build relationships—on the pickup line, through email, or on the phone—most families will be receptive to your efforts.

The Rewards and Challenges of Kindergarten

Teaching kindergarten is incredibly hard work, but it is even more rewarding. It is gratifying to see a child develop resilience, independence, and a love of learning, even if we don’t always get to witness the long-term outcomes. Moments when parents and teachers come together to support a child’s growth and success are the highlights of our profession.

When kindergarteners are eager and excited, willing to make mistakes, and understand that learning is a shared journey between teacher and student, the possibilities are endless. The other day, I had a conference with a boy who is academically in the middle of the pack, but he has the best little mindset. When he makes a mistake, he says, “That’s okay, it’s going to make my brain stronger.” I tell him, “That’s right, it’s your job to be the learner and my job to teach you.”

Keep Moving Forward

Like those amusement park rides that let children steer but provide guardrails so they don’t go off the road, I try to teach my students that bumps and turns are part of life, and it’s their job to course correct and keep moving forward on their journey toward childhood independence.

Through patience and dedication, we teachers plant the seeds that help our students grow into self-reliant and compassionate individuals, and each small victory contributes to their future success.

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